Your brain is an amazing computer that is guiding you…consciously and subconsciously. You don’t have to think about so many vital functions that keep you alive such as breathing. Autopilot is a good thing when it comes to running the body and all of it’s intraquate needs. Autopilot is an subconscious activity. The brain takes care of many things for us and we are not even aware of it. Habits are on autopilot as well. Some are healthy, like brushing your teeth and others not so much.
There is also a conscious mind that is paying attend and making decisions that are in our best interest. Or is it really what is best? I would suggest that it’s filtering based on how it has been programmed. The mind is in fact simply following a plan. This is based on our values, beliefs and expectations. What is interesting about this is that we rarely select our program. It is given to us via suggestions, comments, media, culture, family, friends, media, etc, etc, etc. Basically we don’t realize we have adapted a set of beliefs and values that we didn’t even agree too.
An example of this process is if you have a belief that people your age can’t lose weight. Your brain will filter evidence around you to support your truth. It wants to prove you right and please you. The subconscious mind doesn’t judge beliefs. If the best eating plan for your body showed up, you wouldn’t even notice it because your filter isn’t looking for it.
Here is the cool part: you get to change the program anytime you’d like. You first become aware of the filter that is determining what is going to become autopilot. This takes time and insight. In essence you will have to recreate a new empowering belief until it becomes natural to you.
Start to imagine the life you want. Ask yourself what has to be true for you to believe in order to make this your new belief. Step into this and let your mind play there, even if only for a few moments. It is a very powerful experience to have. Visualization, affirmations and hypnosis will allow you to move through the process faster. Create an image board with pictures and phrases that remind you of your goals.
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I am a major fan of hypnosis to make changes in your life. I have used it with 1,000’s of people over the years and have created audios that have the same impact. Hypnosis works so well because it puts you are in trance. While in a trance you can communicate directly with the subconscious mind. The subconscious mind is where all your mental reprogramming occurs.
Hypnosis is fixating your mind on one thing to the point of eliciting trance. The trance puts you in an alpha brain state or deeper and while in that state your subconscious mind will grab empowering suggestions without judgment and apply them to your life.
Here is the breakdown of the process as it applies to breaking bad habits:
All habits are rooted in the subconscious mind and will stay there until replaced by another habit.
The mind can’t tell the difference between an imagined event and one that really occurred.
Habits are the result of conditioning. It takes at least 21 cycles of an experience for a habit to be rooted in the mind.
While relaxed, the mind is in an alpha state, also known as trance. It is not evaluating what is occurring at the time.
Vividly imaging yourself replacing the old habit with the new habit during trance will help install the new habit.
Visualization or vividly imaging while in hypnotic trance bypasses the critical gatekeeper and conscious mind’s resistance going directly into the subconscious mind.
The subconscious mind believes you have conditioned a new habit, accepts it and implements it into your daily life.
The subconscious mind changes the filter that is being used by the gatekeeper and conscious mind looking for all of the ways to fulfill your expectation.
You begin to notice that you are making changes in your daily life much like the ones that you envisioned while in trance. Many times you realize it after it occurs.
I hope this is clearly outline, ask me questions. I want to help you use this powerful process to change your body and your life.
Next we will talk about this filter your mind is using to create a self fulfilling prophecy.
Summer is on its way to upstate New York… and your home town! Time to think about wardrobe changes. You’ll wear shorter sleeves, shorter pants and possibly a bathing suit…YIKES! People have extreme reactions when this reality sets in. Which one to do you relate to?
The Panicking Person. This person panics and go overboard. They skip meals, run in place and try the latest fad crash diet.
The Downer. They become discouraged and start thinking remorseful thoughts. Those people usually comfort themselves with foods.
Which person are you? It’s okay to admit you relate to them. I hope you can laugh at these reactions even if you identify with them. Resist your nature to react in unhealthy ways. Choose health and fitness as your reaction mode.
The Healthy Person. They value balance in life. Mind, Body and Spirit. It is all important to them. Sometimes they get off track but that’s okay. Summer’s arrival sparks a desire to focus on fitness and energy. Enjoying the season to the fullest. You can be this person. Decide today that health is your birthright. Say it to yourself multiple times a day with a smile on your face and love in your heart.
If you have been reading my blog for a while then you know I follow themes. Spring cleaning is one of them. Each season allows you an opportunity to declutter and refocus to prepare for the next chapter. People clean out closets, the house, yard and so more to create space for the new. I like to do the same on all levels.
What do you do to spring clean your mind and body? It doesn’t have to be complex or difficult. Be mindful of what is distracting you from moving forward to the new. Letting go is a healing experience and one of my themes this year. Letting go of what isn’t healthy for me. I am doing this with a sense of love and appreciation of knowing it’s healthy for everyone when we release that which is negative.
I invite you to meditate on this concept of spring cleaning your mind and body. I would welcome your insights on my facebook page. www.facebook.com/mindoverplatter1
On multiple levels you are drawing into your life what you dwell on the most. This happens energetically in the for of our resonating with others. It also happens in your mind subconsciously. The brain is searching for that which you seek. On many levels you are scanning for what you think about most. When it is found your mind and soul say to you “here it is!!!!” Being obedient and not judging what it’s being asked to find.
Are you seeking that which you desire or fear? Notice your thoughts and feelings from the past. Look at what has shown up. Ask yourself to seek what you desire. Centered your mind and soul in the certainty that your desire is seeking you at this very moment.
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Caring about people is very different than caring for people. Being responsible to others is not the same as being responsible for others. Pleasing yourself by honoring the relationships in your life by being loving and respectful may not be the same thing as being a people pleaser. The first examples I provided: caring about, being responsible to and pleasing yourself include healthy boundaries and a level of self-awareness. The second examples: caring for, being responsible for and people pleasing are focused endless amounts of output.
Acting in ways that are fueled by someone else’s expectations of you can be exhausting and is not balanced. I am mainly referring to your relationship with other adults who are independent. At times, you may have to care for those who can take care of themselves at times. But it isn’t healthy to do it excessively, that’s known as enabling. You have responsibilities to people but are not responsible for there actions or even their feelings. Being a people pleaser is going to cost you in all areas of your life if you don’t set healthy limits.
Being the best you will involve considering your needs and wants. There is nothing wrong with pleasing your values and beliefs especially when it’s moving you in a better direction. This spring, take a big bold step. Leap toward pleasing the healthiest version of you. If you are a “yes” person…STOP and take a deep breath. If saying no is hard for you say practice it daily. Say “no” to every silly thing that is said to you to desensitize yourself. You are liberating yourself with this exercise. You can also find ways to vary saying no such as: “not today”, “this is a good time”, “I’ll have to think about it”, “I have a lot going on and will pass” or plan old “no”.
If you want to reach your health and weight loss goals this year, it is going to require you saying no to what doesn’t support you. For positive affirmations follow me on Instagram.com/rosasmithmontanaro
I must confess that I am not a Valentine’s Day person. I don’t understand why people spend so much money on cards, candy, flowers, food, etc to show the people they love that they care. Why isn’t everyday a day to celebrate that we are loved. Why do we need proof from our loved ones that they love us? I am not saying I don’t participate in the celebration. I just don’t expect or spend a great deal of money or time on it. I celebrate love everyday. But, that’s me. It makes me smile to be grateful for those I love.
I make it a point to tell and show them that I care. So, I am curious and want to ask you to ponder a few thoughts…..
“What would your life be like if you celebrated love every day?”
“What can you do to show your self that you love you?”
“How do you communicate love to those you care about?”
“How do you like to receive love?”
This is probably not the typical Valentine’s post that you were expecting. I felt moved to share from a different perspective in the hope that you will increase the love that you express and receive in your life. It’s okay to be loving to yourself. Treat you like the people you care deeply about, not just today, do it everyday.
I would like to tell you that even though we may never meet in person, you are very special to me. I am humbled and honored that you take time to read my posts. For more positive and loving affirmations follow me on Instagram.com/rosasmithmontanaro
Reject the shame that blinds you. A lot has been written about shame. I have done a great deal of my own emotional work on feelings of shame and how it affects my decisions. We are given messages when we are not conforming to another persons view that we are the one who is defected. This is a highly manipulative pattern that we blindly enter. Not wanting to disappoint the people we love we entertain their point of view.
Although, their point may be valid and the advice well meaning shame should never be part of the relationship. Shame makes us feel bad and less than others. It is my belief that shame is the harshest, most destructive emotion to our well being. If you need to apologize or mend something that is very different.
Shame is the message that we are not okay, who we are is not good enough. Nothing healthy is coming from this belief. I am writing about this because when you make you and your health a priority people will make comments that are judging. They will “kiddingly” say things about your being selfish, or too busy for them. If you feel the need to apologize, justify or defend yourself, it could be rooted in shame based emotion. Become aware of your inner feelings when you do something healthy.
Be mindful of how you react internally especially when it means saying no or setting boundaries. Don’t break the promise you make to yourself to make healthy choices. Schedule time for meals, exercise, doctor’s appointments, etc. Inquire about the food options and take care of your needs. Most importantly, don’t be blinded by shame and give in to what others want you to do or what you think you are suppose to do. Quiet those voices by journaling, talking to a coach and loud music.
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Acting “as if” is a very good tool to use in your fitness goals this year. Acting “as if” requires you to go forward into the future…In your mind and believing what you’re pursuing actually is your current reality. This allows you to access resources that will empower you to behave in a way that is congruent with what you want. It’s a healthy mindset that allows you to think in a way that puts your body in motion toward what you most want.
What I like most about acting as if is that I stop and consult my thoughts prior to behaving in a way that moves me forward. For example if I believe that fitness is one of my highest priorities then I will say to myself how will I act if this were true? I would have a workout plan, healthy food choices and communicate that this is important to me. As I act in this way my mind and body will eventually start to believe it.
Ask yourself what you want most for yourself this year. Take time to journal what you would do if this were in fact 100% true for you. Then act “as if” it is!
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